It’s a strange thing to begin with a burial. But initiation demands it.

Tonight, the Moon is swallowed whole—Virgo’s meticulous hands trembling as she tries to hold on, to perfect, to serve, even as the cosmic tide pulls her under. But the lesson of this eclipse is clear: perfection is the killer of pleasure; pleasure cannot breathe beneath its weight.

“They” say the full moon’s energy spans 3 days before and after totality, and I have certainly felt the shifts as we entered this week. Tuesday, my slave knelt at my feet, apologizing for the 10th time for failing me. Her soul is burdened by the trauma left in her body from decades in the special forces, and even more years attempting to reintegrate into civilian life. Trauma that I, W/we have been chiseling away for the past 2 years, when she entered my care. Trauma that tells her she must be perfect, (albeit by WAASP military standards) although time has eaten away at her body’s ability to be such.

My heart hurts for her. On the one hand, the perfectionism she suffers has nothing to do with her ability to follow my commands. It causes her to overthink, and in her mentally absent mind state, she is more likely to fuck up, adding to her anxiety about being flawed. On the other hand, I can relate to her, the tuggings of my own overachieving ever present even as I edit this draft for the umteenth time. The ways I (for the majority of my 40.5 years) allowed my self-worth to be determined by what amazing things I am producing, or magnetizing to myself. My relentless pursuit of being great has been a burden in times when I am just trying to be. I’ve spent hours in therapy and self-development to restructure this pattern. And yet the urges persist, a perpetual storm on the horizon that I intentionally keep at bay through mindfulness practices. Embodiment. Being here. Now.

The lesson of this moon is about acceptance of where we are, gratitude, and fine-tuning our desires, without comparison of what others may be experiencing.

I know this lesson well. I mentioned I’ve revised this exact offering too many times. Paused. Adjusted. Overthought. As if polishing the edges would make it more worthy. As if power is only given to the prepared.

But power is given to the willing. And so, this post is not a polished invitation. It is an initiation. A ritual of surrender. A shedding of the tight grip, the overworked offering, the illusion of control. Both D and s types may relate to this. We often flock to the safety of our BDSM, where our fixations, ridiculousness, and desire to be mindless (in the care of those we trust) are welcomed, cherished. Here our imperfections may be someone’s fantasy.

Divine Kink Dispatch is a place of curation in real time. It is a living altar—of power and pleasure, of mysticism, of the ecstatic tension between structure and surrender, between the known and the unknown. And so, before we begin, a question:

What weight will you lay down to step inside?

What will you strip away in devotion to pleasure, power, and something greater than perfection- acceptance?

Welcome. The shedding begins now. Let’s open the circle.

Ritual of Shedding

Now that we have purified ourselves in the proverbial waters of Lake Minnetonka…

Welcome!

In this inaugural offering of Divine Kink Dispatch, we stand at the threshold of power and pleasure, ready to traverse realms in which discipline becomes devotion and surrender births freedom.

Divine Kink is an evolving modality - a tantric form of BDSM practice, welcoming our spiritual practices into our healing, cathartic, and sometimes lustful play. A practice that seeks out divinity in all things - especially where it is assumed that none exists. It is not a religion, or associated with any specific tradition, but pulls from the ancient wisdom, and universal laws that may be found within. And it begs for a good ritual.

Divine Kink inspires us to find the ceremony in even the most dull of tasks. A tantric practice, it requires presence, intention, and awareness of the subtle energy body. It is the romanticization of the ordeal, as well as the ecstasy. It asks us to acknowledge the intelligence surrounding us, in the seen and unseen, but surely, felt. Inviting us to embody the divine feminine and masculine aspects that govern the physical and metaphysical worlds, collapsing the shame-inducing illusion of separatism between the sacred and the secular. It is Sex AND God. Divine AND Human. It examines universal power dynamics to teach mastery of ourselves and others (consensually). As above, so within Us.

"…On Earth, as it is in Heaven.” - The Lord’s Prayer

The Cosmic Bachata of Power and Pleasure

The Blood Moon symbolizes a time of unveiling, when the hidden is made manifest, and the subconscious rises to the surface. Its a mirror to our respective journeys in eroticism and spirituality, where we peel back layers to reveal our authentic selves.

Entering stage left: Total Lunar Eclipse in Virgo, March 14th, 2025

It is said that transformative energy peaks during Blood Moon Eclipses, and can bring rapid change in the following Lunar cycle. Many folktales and superstitions take place around these celestial events, reminding us of the Moon’s power over our emotions, and the darker parts of our psyche.

Virgo energy may seem meek on the surface level, but within holds all the strength of creation. She asks us to remember our power, while being aware of the shadow desire to over-analyze, to harshly judge ourselves and others. Releasing perfectionist tendencies will allow us to surrender the need to control every aspect, embracing the flow of life, and pointing us in the direction of unconditional self-love and trust in the universal plan.

Supporting Cast: The RX of Venus & Mercury

Venus is retrograde in Aries, forcing urging reflection upon personal desires, and relationship dynamics. Inviting the reassessment of how we move in love, and what we truly value.

Mercury moves from shadow into full-on retrograde tomorrow, March 15, heightening the potential for communication misunderstandings, cautioning us to approach exchanges with clarity, patience, and grace.

Power at Play

This Virgo eclipse, coupled with the retrogrades, highlights the importance of introspection in our power exchanges:

Self-Reflection: Use this time to assess fantasies, boundaries, and the dynamics of all relationships. How are perfectionism or unhealthy control issues influencing your interactions?

Communication: With Mercury in RX, practicing clear and compassionate communication helps address misunderstandings promptly. How can we ensure all parties feel heard and valued?

Healing: Venus RX offers an opportunity to heal past wounds rooted in love and self-worth. Which of your practices promote self-love and acceptance? What new rituals may shake shit up for you, and deepen that feeling?

Paraphilias Activated (How can we play with these energies?)

Virgo’s meticulous nature, combined with the chaotic release of the Blood Moon can inspire kinks that focus on ritual, precision, and the relinquishing of control via strict boundaries and establishing routines.

• Somnophilia (Sleep Play) - Themes of rest, control, and surrendering the body in a passive state align with Virgo’s deep need for trust and structured care. I recommend Ritual Mummification to satisfy this itch.

• Gags & Sensory Overload (Control & Overstimulation) - Virgo’s overactive mind may crave the discipline of forced stillness or surrender through breath control, gags, or earplugs to silence internal chatter.

• Medical Play (Clinical Precision & Authority Exchange) - Virgoan themes of health, hygiene, and discipline align with the clinical precision of medical role play.

• Service Submission & Domestic Discipline (Acts of Devotion) - Virgo energy thrives in structured service dynamics, reinforcing acts of obedience, discipline, and attention to detail.

Notables due to Venus RX in Aries, which highlights power struggle, and intense self-focused desire:

• Primal Play (Predator/Prey)- Chase, capture, ravishment fantasies.

• Cuckoldry & Jealousy (Ownership vs. Autonomy) - hotwifing, cuckolding, territorialism.

• Brat Tamer & Brat (Rebellion & Power Struggle) s/types pushing limits, D/type reinforcing control.

By aligning ourselves and rituals with these cosmic energies, we can navigate the waters of this period with awareness and intentionality, and groove with the universe as we play our roles in the greatest love letter ever written.

Final Benediction

“As the Moon is swallowed in shadow, I offer my power. As the light returns, so do I-transformed.”

We now close the circle.